He couldn't be bothered driving to see me on my birthday. Do I have any right to be upset?

-Today is my 19th birthday (Tuesday).


-I didnt go to school and didnt get a chance to see my friends, had legal business to take care of


-This morning my boyfriend crept into my room at about 7:30am, when I was still asleep, to bring me flowers and wish me happy birthday.


-We lay together for 15 minutes, then he said he had to go because he didnt want his dad to be mad about him having the car gone for too long.


-That afternoon, he knew I was alone (family issues, not talking to them and these also prevent me from having a little %26#039;gathering%26#039; at my house for my bday)


-He called me at 6


-I asked him to come over (last night he said he %26#039;might be able to%26#039;)


-He lives 5-10 mins from me by car


-He said he couldnt be bothered driving and that he%26#039;d call me on Thursday





It%26#039;s like I%26#039;m not worth a 5 minute drive to my house on my birthday. I understand that sometimes guys just cant be bothered, but youd think that on my birthday, he might spend some time with me.do i have any right to be upset?

He couldn%26#039;t be bothered driving to see me on my birthday. Do I have any right to be upset?
Definitely
Reply:how do you know he jsut wasn%26#039;t covering up that he got in trouble so you wouldn%26#039;t think he was dumb.





and jsut because he couldn%26#039;t be bothered to come see that night after he had done a zillion great htings for you, doesn%26#039;t mean he doesn%26#039;t lie you. he borught you flowers at 7 thirty in the frggin morning, he called you, who cares if he couldn%26#039;t come over. there could have been many reasons he %26quot;couldn%26#039;t have bothered%26quot; so stop worrying.
Reply:nope stop being a drama queen theres people worse off than you
Reply:What wasn%26#039;t good enough for you about the morning flowers and birthday wishes? You were worth the 5 minute drive obviously. And he called you. Give the guy a break. Maybe he really couldn%26#039;t come over. OR, maybe he%26#039;s just not that into you and you acting all needy and dramatic is not going to help.
Reply:Honey, he came by and tiptoed in to wish you happy birthday with flowers and you got your own dramas going on (it sounds with the car issue so does he). You are both young and have issues. Get over it.
Reply:If you wanted to see him so bad then why didn%26#039;t you go pick him up? He did surprise you this morning and nearly got in trouble because of the car. You cant expect him to run and jump at your beck and call when he%26#039;s dealing with other peoples property. I don%26#039;t think you have a right to be upset. He made an effort, just as you have family issues so does he, he cant just take his dads car and go.
Reply:I%26#039;m sorry youre going through this on your birthday, no body deserves that. Well, he did make an effort to see you this morning so you shouldnt be mad at him, you should be mad at the situation. I have had this happen to me before on my birthday, and its a special day for me and the other person doesnt understand how important it is for me to see them or whatever. Birthdays are usually an emotional day anyway, and I know how it feels. First of all, many years ago, I have learned to stop trusting others to act on my birthday. I plan AHEAD weeks before, an agenda for the day. So if some of my friends join me thats cool, if not, they will be missing out on the fun anyway. True friends will make time. I long ago stopped depending on my boyfriend to be there for me, and just planned stuff where if he is unable to join me, that he wouldnt ruin my day. For example on my birthday: Wake up early work out, get a facial and massage (get dropped off if you dont drive), go shopping, and at night get dressed, have a great dinner, go out for another place for dessert, and go to a lounge or a movie. And thats my plan, i%26#039;m depending on myself to enjoy my day because my day is important to me and i%26#039;m worth it. Well, dont be mad at him, but for his birthday, dont be too extra nice to him just keep the feelings neutral. My bf and my birthday is 13 days apart, mine comes first, when he doesnt do something nice for me, he can expect the same. Last yr, he took me out to a very very nice dinner, and it costed him $120 for 2 people! I didnt ask him to spend so much money on me, but he wanted me to do the same for his day! I was sorta broke later on. But its cool, this yr, i dont want to uncertain so I%26#039;m planning my day but keep a limit on spending a certain amount of money. OH, and about the whole %26quot;i%26#039;ll call you thursday%26quot; part, he sounds flaky, and its not nice. And you have a right to be upset about that one.



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